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Is it possible to forgive and forget? I’ve heard that you cannot do one without doing the other. I find that concept hard to digest. Yeah, I can forgive but no way am I able to forget. I think the key is in the power of the memory.
LET ME ASK YOU THIS …
Will you allow the power of your hurt to consume you to the point of it being in the forefront of your everyday thoughts? If that is the case, then you have not truly forgiven. I personally don’t think that you should forget, but you should move on. Every hurt that you endure will either weaken or strengthen your character. It’s totally up to you. Haven’t you heard the expression that as long as you hold hurt in your heart that you are giving the other person the power over you? Well if you’re anything like me, I have to be in control of as much as I’m capable of. I also believe that your feelings for the person that hurt you affect your ability to forgive.
Someone asked me, “How is it that two people have hurt me and I can forgive one and not the other?” I told them that part of the reason for their forgiveness or lack of was a result of their feelings for the person who hurt them. I was told that the art of love is, the supply of forever forgiveness – sounds beautiful, don’t it? Yeah, well, I also believe that your love for someone can interfere with forgiveness. It all depends on what that person has done to hurt you. But in the end it all boils down to forgive and move on and it really doesn’t matter what that person has done. The objective is to regain the power of control and the best way to do that is with forgiveness. I’m not going to lie to you; I haven’t forgiven all that I should. What can I say; I’m a work in progress.
What about you? Do you think that you can forgive and move on?